Thursday, 5 January 2017

A Young Man Asked: Masturbation For Sexual Gratification? See Reactions


A young man, Oye Gaddiel, who does not want to die in silence asked popular On Air Personality, Freeze a very important; outpouring question needing an advice. The one that most men in his age won't dare to ask while they die in silence.

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It was a challenge that every young and growing man had faced at one point or the other in their lives. It is a question about about Masturbation (as a means of gratifying one's sexual desire!) He asked; 




Fornication we all agree is a great sin before God. Gal 5:19ff. But as a means of gratifying one's sexual desire at least, is it an act of sin if someone engages in masturbation or use of sexual toys?

And in his understanding, Freeze said; "This is one of the most difficult questions anyone has ever asked me. From the way the letter is constructed, you can tell that the young man is not only intelligent and well educated, but he is also polite, which indicates that his parents brought him up well. From his tone, I can see this is a genuine question that is bothering not only him, but a multitude of other people, young and old, irrespective of their religious inclination. 
The religious righteousness in me wanted to tell him that masturbation is a sin and must never be engaged in, but where does that leave the 46 year old widow, who confided in me last year, that she had to buy a sex toy because her husband died, leaving her with 6 children and no man wanted to marry her, so instead of jumping from one man to the other, she decided to please herself?
Or an unmarried man at 35, when I know it's unhealthy, according to empirical research, not to empty your prostate regularly, as it predisposes men to prostate cancer later in life?
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Marc Garnick, M.D., Editor in Chief of Harvard Medical School’s Annual Report on Prostate Diseases, says:
"Two relatively large studies of this question, reported in 2003 and 2004, yielded good news for sexually active men: high ejaculation frequency seemed to protect against prostate cancer." Ejaculations included sexual intercourse, nocturnal emissions/masturbation. According to the study available at www.harvardprostateknowledge.org The scientists found that men who ejaculated 21 or more times a month enjoyed a 33% lower risk of prostate cancer compared with men who reported four to seven ejaculations a month."
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Now, before that righteous Yahoo Boy, who you intend to give your January salary to, jumps up and starts calling masturbation a sin, let's remember that Isaac married Rebecca when she was only 3 years old, according to research done by some scholars and the average marriage age for boys in biblical times was around 13. Furthermore, David had several wives and concubines, Solomon had 1000, Abraham 2 wives several concubines, Jacob 2 wives and their housegirls, so emptying the prostate wasn't such a problem."

See Other Writer's reactions:

ruggeddentity@daddyfreeze it's good to know there is someone whose thought and reasoning are close to mine... Some years back i got engaged in an argument like this one, at the end i earned the nick "Devil's advocate".

p_joush: Masturbation doesn't prove a person lacks self control, rape does

njibe: For instance, some youths have engaged in oral or anal sex or mutual masturbation, rationalizing that these acts are not so bad because they think they are technically not “having sex.” Such youths forget—or may choose to ignore—that the Bible word for fornication includes all those practices, wrong conduct for which one might be disfellowshipped.*

njiben: healthy habit, masturbation instills attitudes that foster self-centeredness and corrupt the mind.* A masturbator may also grow to view others as mere sex objects—tools for sexual satisfaction. Sex becomes separated from love and is relegated to a reflex that gives momentary pleasure and relieves sexual tension. But that relief is only temporary. In reality, instead of deadening the body’s members “as respects sexual immorality, uncleanness, [and] uncontrolled sexual passion,” masturbation arouses them.—Colossians 3:5.

The apostle Paul wrote: “Beloved ones, let us cleanse ourselves of every defilement of flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God.” (2 Corinthians 7:1) If you are struggling to heed these words, do not give in to despair. Jehovah is always “ready to forgive” and to help. (Psalm 86:5; Luke 11:9-13) Indeed, your self-condemning heart and your efforts to give up the habit—despite occasional relapses—indicate a good attitude. Keep in mind, too, that “God is greater than our hearts and knows all things.” (1 John 3:20) God sees more than our sins; he sees the whole person. This knowledge enables him to hear with sympathy our earnest pleas for mercy. So never weary of turning to God in humble and earnest prayer, like a child who goes to his father when in trouble. Jehovah will bless you with a cleansed conscience. (Psalm 51:1-12, 17; Isaiah 1:18) Of course, you need to take positive steps in harmony with your prayers. For example, you would strive to avoid all forms of pornography as well as bad associates.* If your problem with masturbation persists, please speak about the matter with a Christian parent or a spiritually mature and caring friend.*—Proverbs 1:8, 9;1 Thessalonians 5:14; Titus 2:3-5.

Masturbation is the stroking or rubbing of the genital organs, commonly resulting in orgasm.

As a practical step in controlling the use of a home computer, many families keep it in a public area. Additionally, some households purchase software that filters out undesirable material. No system, though, is completely reliable.

bellekisss@daddyfreeze while Christians debate the topic of masturbation, there is no passage in d Scripture that directly mentions the act. Some believers refer to specific Bible verses that describe healthy and unhealthy sexual behavior to determine whether or not masturbation is a sin. @daddyfreeze @daddyfreeze

daddyfreeze@bellekisss: if you are in a marriage and your husband cannot satisfy you... instead of cheating please masturbate... Some things need logic as against biblical verses. There is no bible verse that talks about Jesus taking a bath 🛀 does that mean he didn't bathe? No be everything be scripture....

ibdrock@daddyfreeze: I dey feel you my pastor, seriously even as a Muslim I've fund someone at last that is saying the truth from the other side. Seriously

ibdrock@daddyfreeze:  this post has not only enlighten me but the sincere truth is that the boy spoke out my mind, he testified on my behalf , cos I've been passing same situation trying to ask questions thought to be silent about it was the best. Like I said am a Muslim but seriously I don't know what that Mallam will say sha but seriously I will go with @daddyfreeze, thanks my Pastor.

korintthian: The Bible does not directly mention masturbation as sin but it is sexual immorality all the same. This is my take on the matter. 1. The thought that accompanies 'the act' is mostly evil. Some people watch porn to afford them the arousal they need to properly gratify that sexual desire. This is why young men begin to see girls and women as sex objects. 2. We all have in us what is called 'conscience' which was put in us by the Almighty God to, in a way, tell us what is right from wrong. When a man first commits murder, his conscience pricks him, when a man first steals, his conscience disturbs him. So also when a man first masturbates. The man feels an uncleanliness in him but as he continuously desires the satisfaction rather than listens to his conscience, he kills his conscience and wallows in the sin... I know what science and medicine say about masturbation but science tells me to believe in evolution, lol! Sexual desire is created by God and the devil who is far wiser than we are has devised means to confuse and make us see sin as good. He did that in the time of Adam, he does it all the time... Lastly, if you want to masturbate, continue! After all, we shall all give account of all we do now to God.

oioioioioioioiioioioioioioio: Let me back my comment with some bible verses. 1 Corinthians 7:8-9 says "So I say to those who aren't married and to widows-it's better to stay unmarried, just as I am. But if they can't control themselves, they should go ahead and marry than to burn with lust". So I feel that widow should not masturbate or use sexual toys except of course if no lust while in the act, which I doubt. Just won't be so easy fondling with your body without sexual thoughts of some sort or lust. Well, na my opinion. Also for that boy and men, Proverbs 6:25 says "Don't lust for her beauty. Don't let her coy glances seduce you". Well, I say again that I don't know if you masturbate without lust or having glances of a babe in your head. May God help us all. I am a doc, so I can say the body has a way of getting rid of unreleased sperms. It is broken down my the body, so not like it stays for too long. It has a cycle of a few weeks before regeneration of another...Cheers!! Happy 2017 

k_tobilobaWow, from this, I don't think stealing is a sin either, as long as I steal not to die of hunger, it's justifiable. Glory!